Have you ever wondered how satisfying it'd be to witness the narcissist's downfall?
All the ways they try to get under your skin, hurt you, cause you pain, ridicule you and leave you feeling worthless can sometimes not go the way they hoped.
That's when you notice…
…The narcissist has tried to destroy you, but they've ended up doing that themselves instead.
These five ways they do it explain clearly how a narcissist, Mr Perfect, can even get it wrong.
Excuse me while I stifle a laugh…
#1 They isolate… until it backfires
A narcissist will never reveal what secrets and plans they have up their sleeve lined up just for you.
If they told you, you'd never stick around. Instead, it's kept a secret, and one of those secrets is how they isolate you.
At one point in time, you have family and friends around you, like most of us do.
They've been your support system for as long as you can remember, and you'd like to think you have a mutual appreciation for being positive influences on each other.
This very positive influence is the enemy to the narcissist, who sees your relationships with others as nothing but a threat to them.
In their eyes, they feel it's only a matter of time before you confide in them about the narcissist, and they will convince you to leave them.
They're also jealous that you are such a good friend, or sister, or aunt, or daughter, and they hate that you aren't putting that effort into your relationship with them (even though you are and more).
Once they've isolated you, they discover in fact, that you now see them as the main source of comfort and company.
Narcissists don't like this in the long run, even though for a while it was what they wanted.
Suddenly, they have to meet every one of your emotional needs, and every worry.
They did not budget for this, and it's hard for them to keep up with.
As they start to pull away and label you needy, they realize that isolating you comes with a consequence.
#2 The lies they tell start to get tangled up
Quite a humorous way a narcissist tries to destroy you, but instead ends up destroying themselves:
The lies.
At first, they seemed quite easy to keep on top of, but now and as more and more time passes, the narcissist finds it ever-increasingly difficult to keep up with what they say, and who they said it to.
Certain people get certain versions of events, and it takes up all the narcissist's energy to remember to be consistent.
In fact, at times it's downright impossible, and that's where you'll see them struggle.
Eventually, those people the narcissist lies to will meet and exchange notes. They will get totally contrasting stories, and put two and two together:
What they were told wasn't even remotely true.
Even when two people don't meet, there's the risk of a social media post contradicting the narcissist.
Or maybe a family member relays a story that proves the narcissist to be the liar.
What starts off as a performance for them to look good, or innocent, or even the victim ends up being pie thrown back in their faces, and I am here for every one of those pies.
Masking lies becomes a full time job, as the narcissist desperately tries to cover their tracks, but it always goes wrong in the end.
#3 Those they discard start to re-enter their lives
A narcissist spends their life discarding wherever they go. If it isn't you, it was an ex, or a friend, or even an estranged sibling.
But what do all these people have in common? Well, they each walk around with a story, and their stories are always pretty accurate.
The narcissist may once had outrun these stories. They moved around, or drew themselves into a new circle of people to distract, but eventually, wires connect, and rumors travel.
One day, the narcissist finds themselves in the kind of situation where they're trying to impress somebody who has already heard those rumors. It's too late, no matter what the narcissist wants.
People back away from the narcissist, hearing what they really didn't want to hear.
It is their worst nightmare, and there's nothing they can do about it.
What goes around, comes around, right?
#4 Their partners refuse to, and stop, crumbling any more
There comes a point for every victim where they've had enough.
Being on the receiving end of this abuse for too long will, and does help you figure out exactly the kind of person you've been dealing with all this time.
Before you know it, you're dealing very well with their usual tactics, much to the disgust of the narcissist.
Their games stop working, because you stop reacting to them.
When they give you the silent treatment, instead of freaking out and blaming yourself, you are calm and shrug it off like it's nothing.
All the abuse they've piled on you has now done them some kind of Karmic favor.
They know you, they know your mask, they figured out your charm, and as much as they hoped for a happy outcome, they're faced with the reality:
You caused them to crumble, and now they're not standing for it any more.
Maybe that means you've met exes, or other survivors of narcissistic abuse.
You've come together to realize that the crumbling of your personality has now been halted by your knowledge and awareness.
The narcissist loses their sense of power, and in turn implodes because there's no way to get you back.
Once any eyes are open to narcissistic abuse, there's no closing them ever again.
They played you so hard that in the end, you figured out the entire game was never for your benefit, and you were never going to win all the while they controlled the reins.
For them, this is the point where panic and fear can really set in.
Let them. They deserve it.
#5 What goes on inside becomes too loud to ignore
Every time a narcissist uses a certain tactic on another person, they also have experience of using it on themselves.
Rewriting history for somebody else? Sure. They can do that for themselves, too. Or what about the way they project? That's possible, too.
Then there's the really interesting tactics, like avoidance or contempt. It all soaks into the narcissist's bloodstream, as well as affecting you.
They hate themselves, but they want you to hate yourself. Causing you to feel that way about yourself doesn't make the narcissist like themselves even more, in fact, it only adds to their self-loathing.
Everything is inward with narcissists, even if you see them act like the biggest charmer in the room.
They're constantly thinking about all the ways they can hurt, when in fact, all they're doing is hurting themselves.
You'll eventually leave, and a new partner will soon come along then leaves, too. Friends fade into the distance, and their family no longer gets in touch.
Narcissists are always left alone, self-destructed, and it's their own deserving downfall.
