You've hit a sluggish wall, and you think it's because life is getting you down so much that you no longer have any energy to live it fully.
I want you to remember one thing: narcissists share this world with you.
This reminder should serve to prompt you into the fact that you aren't tired of life, you're tired of narcissists.
These five signs will confirm that you're done with toxic people draining you, so be prepared for a whole shift in perspective.
#1 Your exhaustion isn't a mood; it's a pattern followed
A person who has a lot of narcissists in their life isn't necessarily going to be aware that the narcissists are the ones causing this exhaustion, but I want you to think about something.
The patterns of tiredness only began when these people came into your life.
Before them, you felt a different kind of zest, and were minimally affected by people who came along with a bit of an attitude.
Now? Now things are different, and when you look around, you notice several narcissists who play a big role in your life somehow.
Maybe it isn't even that many, it certainly doesn't need to be.
It really does only take one to cause untold problems, but unfortunately for society, narcissists aren't that rare.
And so, you look at your mood, and you re-evaluate. This isn't a one-off. This isn't you struggling with your day and feeling the stress of it all:
This is life around narcissists. And that life forms a pattern.
It's the kind of pattern nobody really wants to get messed up in, but you're going to be drained by them if you spend enough time with them.
They leave you feeling like you are running on empty, yet still should be giving more and more.
#2 You are a different person around other people
It's funny how that works, isn't it? When you're around your family, or that joyous coworker, or your best friend, it's as if you hit decompress and can finally be yourself.
You get energy from people with energy, and they naturally boost you to feel good.
The contrast in how you present as a person is shocking, and you think, probably for too long, that it's just a coincidence.
Joining the dots might mean you stop to think about what's really going on, and overriding the manipulative thoughts emotionally stapled to you by the narcissist that you're the problem.
If you're out with people and feeling the spark of life once more, then maybe, just maybe, this isn't about you at all. It's who you're spending your time with.
It's who you let into your day. It's a strong sign that you're not tired of life at all, but it's the people in it who are causing all the upset.
For you, that's the narcissist, and yes, they are a huge reason why you feel so drained of happiness.
That's what they love to do best; make you feel as though you've got nothing to give, yet still expecting you to give them the entire world just because they feel entitled to it.
That's really not how it works, but it sure will be how they want you to perceive the world.
If anything, this is your sign to spend more time with the people who make you feel good, because it's those people who will hold you up when you feel like all you want to do is fall down.
#3 Once the conversation stops, you're fine
What's really going on when it's just you and the narcissist?
Are you sitting at dinner, having the same, regurgitated, overwhelming, exhausting conversation?
How did it start? Did the narcissist pick up the menu and drop a comment that they know would trigger you?
Conversations don't flow with a narcissist, in fact, they get stuck to the point where it's only you trying to salvage anything good from them.
You hear their words (who doesn't?!), but you never really get a chance to fully speak because that would mean the narcissist has to listen.
Conversations leave you feeling drowned in hopelessness and frustration, and it takes all you have to recover from each one.
Once you do? You feel okay. You've had to have it, and now you're walking a slightly happier path because it's behind you.
These feelings are all totally normal, if anything, they aren't talked about enough.
The reason the narcissist approaches talking to you this way is because they know they're running your tank all the way down, and for them, that's when they find you being your best.
You're tired. You're maybe even a little bit confused. You can't remember what you said, so you agree with their version for ease and peace.
The narcissist is happy because all of this is about controlling you, your thoughts, and how you feel.
Day to day, that's got to affect you, but when there is no conversation or effort, you feel somewhat regulated.
Are you starting to see it for what it is yet?
#4 You don't fantasize about dying, you fantasize about leaving
I'll preface this by saying on the off chance that you are thinking such serious thoughts, please speak to somebody.
For the most part though, there are no thoughts of this kind. Instead, there are fantasies.
Not the kind where you have the wildest night of your dreams with them, but where you leave them.
I know, right? Doesn't it sound amazing?
What do we have here? We have you in a relationship, not only wishing you weren't, but picturing what it would be like if you weren't, and loving it.
It gets you through the day to think about what it'd be like if you lived alone in a country cottage, or just being able to come home from work and breathe instead of fighting.
What a life that would be, which proves you aren't sick of it at all, you're just sick of who is in it right now.
They are the poison, and you are the remedy.
#5 When you do little things for you, it feels euphoric
And rightly so! You deserve to have some good things going on in your life, and if you haven't then, make them happen!
Little things. Enjoy that shower. Write that letter to your penpal.
Go for a walk. Plant those spring bulbs. It might be something even smaller than all of that, like making yourself your favorite tea and enjoying it at sunrise.
It will feel amazing because you're finally not living a life where you abandon yourself, and just for a moment, you get to feel what it's like to enjoy the things you love.
Making more time for yourself this way is a real confidence booster, and one that can only make you feel as though you're not living a bad life, you're instead inviting the wrong people into it.
If there are narcissists lurking in your life, ask yourself how you can start doing little things for yourself as a reminder that you are not worthless.
Try it, and then understand that your tiredness is because of them, not you.
